Um...Brett's wife hastens to add that Brett IRL is NOT a psychopath or sociopath, but is a very loving, creative, gentle man. Really, people.
Rug, I would like say that your life has GOT to be interesting. With a hubby with such a creative aspect to him, and an...interesting, yeah that works, sense of humor, your life has GOT to be extremely interesting.
Hang in there both of you. Thoughts and prayers are, and have, been heading in your directions.